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The Difference Between Anger And Rage

By on August 20, 2010 in Anger Management Tips, Understanding Anger

A lot of people asked me, what’s the difference between anger and rage?

In the literal context, when we mention anger, it means an emotion which we experience when our needs, and expectations are not met, personal beliefs differ from others and also when we are treated unjustly or unrespected.

Rage refers to an action(s) in response to the experience of anger, which usually occurs when people do not handle or manage their anger appropriately, thus allowing the feelings of anger to escalate and eventually erupt like a volcano.

So the next question should be… What can I do to manage anger/rage?

Well, since we know that rage is a cause of anger, we have to tackle the root cause… anger. When I say tackling, it doesn’t mean eliminating all forms of anger. Like I have always preached… Anger, when used effectively can prevent instances of rages from occuring. Anger is a sign that something is wrong and when something is wrong, it should be discussed in an orderly manner so that we can solve the underlying problem.

The next time you feel abit angry, pause and immediately recognize that your feelings or needs have been unmet, and decide that you would like to discuss your feelings with the other party involved before things escalate. That is one good way to prevent rage from occurring.

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The Difference Between Anger And Aggression

By on July 29, 2010 in Understanding Anger

So what’s the difference between “Anger” and “Aggression”. Anger is a feeling that we experience, and aggression is an action that results from it. Similar to how sadness is a feeling and crying is a resultant action. 

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Not all anger leads to aggression. It depends on the intensity of our feelings an also our social upbringing. For example, you might feel angry at your boss or friend, but not necessarily enough to push you to take an aggresive action. If our parents were to fight in front of us when we were kids, we would be subconsciously taught to be aggresive whenever we get into an argument with someone.

How do you handle your emotions? Do you have a tendency to be aggresive towards people whenever you are angry? Or do you often have crazy thoughts of kicking someone’s ass? There are better ways to solve issues and dealing with difficult relationships which don’t involve violence. Know that we all have a choice in life.

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